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No.1 She gushes over other men

Isn't this an obvious sign? Yes, it is. But the capacity of the lonely male mind for denial is staggering. So this still needs to be said.

She may talk lovingly of an ex-boyfriend or giddily discuss another guy's attractive qualities. Maybe she's just always commenting on how hot the guys on TV are. If you sense that she's on the prowl, it should clue you in that the guy next to her -- you -- might not be the man of her dreams.

No.2 She doesn't lay a finger on you

It's long been known that an interested woman will brush her fingers against your arm, tickle you or lightly smack you. If none of this playful touching is taking place, it's because she wants to keep her distance.

Give her this casual touch test to see how she reacts: When you're walking down the street, bump her with your butt or lightly push her away from you and see how she reacts. The optimal response is for her to playfully push you back. If she ignores you, don't expect to be bumpin' with her in any other sense of the word.

Another test is to ask to see her fresh manicure, thereby getting a sneaky chance to grasp her hand for a moment. If she doesn't respond warmly to your touch, she's probably not interested in a steamy makeout session.

No.3 She brings a third wheel

This is a completely unfair trick that women will play if they either don't like you or aren't yet sure that they do. They'll invite a friend along to help size you up or to take the pressure off of her having to talk to you.

Say you make a date to meet a lovely young lady for a drink, and when you show up, there's another guy chatting with her. Or one of her girlfriends is there keeping her company. This is always a most unwelcome intrusion and a strong signal that you should get out of there. At worst, it could degenerate into a two-way conversation, with you as the odd man out.

As soon as you see that she's not alone, say that something came up and you need to cancel. There's nothing to regret about making this move -- you're not on a date if there's a third wheel!

No.4 She asks for favors

Is she regularly asking far more of you than your time and attention? Maybe first she wants to raid your DVD collection. Then she wants to borrow your truck to move. Next she wants you to help her move.

An interested lady will never ask you for favors or for you to perform menial tasks on her behalf. She'll be focused on one thing only, and that's winning your heart. Furthermore, doing favors for a girl in the hopes that she'll fall for you does not make you a nice guy. It makes you a sap.

 

 

No.5 She stays away from you in public

If she isn't interested in you, she certainly doesn't want anyone to mistakenly think that she is. Accordingly, she will avoid being seen "coupled up" with you at classic date spots. If she rejects all your invitations to the coffee shop, the bar, dinner, and the movies, you're likely barking up the wrong tree.

Suppose you two go out to a nightspot and she systematically avoids being spotted by her friends. If she's in stealth-mode, it should tell you that she doesn't want her peers to think there's something going on between you.

No.6 She uses the F-word

No, not the good F-word. The word she uses is much nastier: friends. If a woman addresses you with the word "friend," you are dead in the water. You never want to be friends with a girl you're attracted to.